Love is of the Soul. Fear is of the personality.

In the past, I have always thought how is it possible to have such a “great” connection with someone but it never seems to work out? You date someone and you end up in this viscous cycle of having great “chemistry” but something always ends up splitting you two apart, not on bad terms things just drift away. I read a book one time called “The Seat of the Soul” by Gary Zukav and I swear it made things a lot clearer about life in general. It touched on how the soul and personality are two different things.

The personality is formed by events and experiences. The soul is pure, nonjudgmental, and unselfish. The soul is love. The soul knows that the person they are committed to has purpose that is beyond them. Where as the personality wants to survive, always wants what it believes is best for itself. The personality is full of judgment of self and others, as described by Gary Zuvak, “The personality sees its anger or its fear not only within itself, but everywhere outside itself as well…Love is of the soul… Fear is of the personality”

What if that was applied to romantic relationships? If the soul and the personality are two different entities within one being what if our soul see’s another person’s soul in its purest form, vulnerable and it feels the love of that persons soul. What if their soul matched our soul? Not meaning that you may be soul mates but more so the law of attraction. Two like souls connecting, possibly on similar paths with similar purpose, feeling “chemistry.” You know how we say, “it’s just something about them. Idk.”

But…. then we have the personality. The personality is not as innate as the soul. The personality has to be developed and from the day we are born we are learning. Think about the concept of “girls” toys versus “boys” toys. We are learning how to function in life and love in every environment and experience. As we go through experiences our personality builds walls and guards. It tells us to feel fear, jealousy, happiness and/or sadness depending on the situation. Our personality even tells us what our roles are in society and romantic relationships. We are taught because we are born a woman or a man we have certain personality traits that dictate these roles.

The personality can make it hard for two people to fully connect even though they feel a deep connection. This may be seen as having “chemistry,” but it can also feel like a tug-of-war with self and in the relationship. Where you feel this undeniable “chemistry” but don’t understand why things just won’t work. In cases like this our personality may try and force the relationship to be successful.

The same could be said for personalities attracting and the souls not connecting. Someone could be great you get a long perfectly, you have the same views on life, you both may share the same interests but something just isn’t right. You just can not put your finger on it but you know there is no “flame” or “passion.” It could be that your souls do not share a connection. These relationships normally end up friend zoned.

Having one and not the other can feel confusing and incomplete. It also sends us in cycles trying to figure out why it did not work, thinking it was just poor timing, and keeps us going back to give it another try. What I have realized, being in both situations in the past, is everything starts with self. If we keep having these “lopsided” attractions we may need to look within self. Remember the Law of Attraction, “like always attracts like.” If our focus is healing and vibrating higher we will attract more balance because we are more balanced.

“When the personality is not attached to, is apart from, clear soul energy, it becomes seduced into the physical matterness of life,” says Gary. The soul is what leads our decision with wisdom and higher power. I gained something important from “The Seat if the Soul” and it was how to align my personality with my soul. So that my soul guides my personality. This allowed me to see things for what they are. See things in the moment and not for what I had been through or what my personality wanted to come of the situation. It is to live in love. It is realizing you do not connect on all levels with someone and being ok with that and being able to decipher your attraction. Realizing we are here for purpose that is greater than our personality. It is being in tune with our higher self.

When you start to align your personality with your soul things become clearer. I believe there can be a clash between souls and personality and between personalities and souls in finding a partner and dating, but aligning your own personality with your soul creates a new variable within the law of a attraction. We are able to vibrate in our higher power and allow your soul to guide us in love and understanding.

I hope this has inspired you live in love and reach your higher self! Please click like and share! Peace!